While I am not the perfect example for forgiving others, I am learning and have learned a lot. When Jesus prayed The Lord’s Prayer he asked God to forgive us as we forgive others, then turns around and says that if we won’t forgive how can we expect to be forgiven. It is hard to forgive, and harder to forget. While the mantra for to day is forgive but don’t let them do it again. We will know whether we have forgiven or not when we see the person who wronged us and the feeling of anger wells up inside us. That is where the art of forgiveness comes in.
We as humans are not programmed to forgive easily, but we also have to realize that our unforgiveness is sin and our sin put Jesus on the cross. The good news is that Jesus and the cross is where the art of forgiveness begins to takes shape. Our inability to forgive is transcended by God’s ability to forgive us. As Jesus hung on the cross he looked at the crowd and asked God to forgive them because they did not realize what they were doing. Because of our inability to truly forgive Jesus’ power is made full because through him we can do anything. As we rely on him more and more to help us forgive we will see his power magnified in our lives cleansing us of the sin of unforgiveness.
The art of forgiveness is not a trick, but reliance on Christ. Placing our burdens on him is what we are supposed to do, but they make us who we are sometimes and we wear our burdens for the world to see. Also, we shouldn’t wait on the people who wronged us to ask for forgiveness. They may not even know they have done anything to us. They may not even care that they have done anything to us. Our willingness to forgive will free us in our relationships with others and with God. As we forgive, so we will be forgiven.