Personal Success – You Get What You Give

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Each of us is created with certain gifts our personal success will be determined by what we do with those gifts in out time here on earth. What I would like for you to see is that no matter who you are, what you put into life is exactly what you get out.

Jesus tells us that a good tree bears good fruit, and a bad tree gives bad fruit. Beyond that your attitude will determine how many friends you have and your level of relationships with these people. Your attitude at work will depend on whether you are advanced at work or whether you work at all. Your attitude toward learning will determine whether you spend time learning or not.

We are very fortunate in America to live in a free society. We can choose to take advantage of the freedom we have and make a life that we were designed to live in the job we were designed to do. Or we can sit on the sidelines and complain about the lot we were cast and become miserable old curmudgeons who have no true friends and die mostly alone.

Life is uncertain in that we do not know what tomorrow holds, but if you knew you would die on a certain day at a certain time would you choose to live a miserable unfulfilled life or one where you choose to use the talents you were given by God and live a joyful life doing what you were designed to do. Well here is some news, you are going to die someday so why not use the gifts God gave you and make something of what you are.

If you let life happen to you; you will probably lose. Sitting around and waiting to hit the lottery is not a long term goal. You have to start paying attention to the calling that is in your heart, start setting goals, and start reading books to help you see beyond tomorrow when you realize you control your future and you start making better choices, then you will start to see changes in your life that you never thought would happen.

Here is the stuff you do not hear in goal-setting seminars. There will be times when you think you have failed. These time of doubt come into every persons life. Unless you quit you have not failed. Mistakes and setbacks happen but they are not failures and you need to see them for what they are, setbacks. If you keep going you will see success.

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You Have To Sow The Seeds To See Results

If you have never been to northeast Florida we do not have seasons, just hot and not hot, that’s it. Growing up in a rural town in Arkansas and being around farmers until I left there at twenty to join the Navy I had a sense for what season it was. I knew it was planting season or harvest or when it was time to prepare the ground or leave it alone. Each of us has seasons in our lives and we need to know what season it is and when they change we need to know how to sow seeds, cultivate the ground or harvest our reward.

Yes if you know anything about the Bible you know that Jesus told the parable of the sower and the author of Ecclesiastes told us there is a time for all things. Have you ever stopped to think about those times and what they mean to you?

1. Cultivating - This is a time to make the ground ready. When you cultivate your mind you are reading books and listening to CD’s (MP3′s) and filling your mind with good information to set a solid foundation for what is ahead. Cultivating also has an aspect that makes it the most important area for success. You must cultivate before you plant. You need to study the area you are going to start your endeavor in but also begin to set up personal growth habits by learning to set goals and make lists of important tasks to handle.

This is also the only season that never ends. Steven Covey calls it “sharpening the saw.” You must always be renewing your mind and thought process to move forward with what you are called to do. I have put the cart before the horse and tried to reap while I should have been cultivating.

2. SowingSowing is the time for making contacts adding to lists and developing relationships. This is the time to increase your productivity. Hit the street if you are a sales person, put your book on the internet if you are an infopreneur, or gather names for your list if you are a network marketer. You must increase your output during the planting phase to reap the payoff of the gathering phase.

3.Reaping - This is the time to bring in your rewards. Unlike the seasons of planting and sowing; spring and fall, this reaping also coincides with continual planting and cultivating to gather in at another time. During this time knowing when to speed up and when to slow down is very important. Keeping a balance is crucial or you will end up off track of your goals or worse burnt out. Know your priorities and know when to just refocus on cultivating and when to start sowing again to reap later.

Stay focused on the big picture and what is really the most important things of all.

How To Define Your Values

 

Listening can help you figure out what your values are. How can you make good decisions if you do not know why you are making them? If you have goals that are thought through and you know these goals are truly God-given, how do you know that to be true if you do not write out your God-given values so you can see them? Here is a good way to let God define your values.

1. What are you reading? Look at the keywords in the books you read or the tapes you listen to. While you are reading or listening take notes, get a feel for the material. This will help you pick out the value words.

2. What are the subjects that drive you to succeed? What gets your motor running? At one point in my life this value was food. I put food right up with family on my value system and at 270 pounds it showed. Write these items down also.

3. After you have gotten a broad spectrum of what you think your values are write every one of them on a single sheet of paper. Find 12 values that you feel are your top ones and write them on a separate sheet. Fold that piece of paper up and leave it alone for at least one day.

4. When you come back to the 12 values sheet you need to read it, understand it, make a change if you need to. Once these values are in your mind take the three top values and put them on a separate sheet of paper. These will be your guiding values. This may sound easy but it is not, if you really want to know what your values really are.

After you have completed this exercise try matching values to goals. If there are goals you have not been reaching maybe they do not line up with what you really believe. Maybe you will see a trend and be able to set new goals that do line up with your values. Either way knowing what you truly value will help you in your life’s walk.

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Popularity of Life Coaching

Just a few short years ago if someone told you they had a coach you would have probably thought they had a tennis or a golf coach they were working with to improve their game.  Now when someone says they have a coach more and more people realize that person is trying to grow as a person, and trying to become successful on their terms.

Personal life coaching has an enormous potential for growth.  As I mentioned in another post Why Not Become A Life Coach, there are thousands of areas where you can become a coach.  If you look at each person in America, they need coaching for: personal development, finances, marriage, home schooling, decorating, career, leadership, starting a business, accomplishing goals, and any number of things you can think of.

Why Is Life Coaching So Popular?

In my opinion, life coaching is so popular first because, most people already know what they want to do.  People have goals but most people need some one to come along side them and help them fine tune the goals and act on them.  They also need an honest sounding board that may not be specifically tied to them like a close friend is.  Friends are great, they just think like you do so they may not have the best view of what is going on.

Second, most people don’t have a mentor they can go to.  I had a conversation last week with a friend about how we wished someone would have come along side us earlier in life to open our eyes to the opportunities that are in front of us now.  If everyone had a mentor there would be no need for coaches.  Coaches are available now to come along side us and help each person walk through the opportunities at hand.

Finally, coaching is so popular because technology has made it possible.  Cell phones let us talk for unlimited minutes.  The internet lets us stay in constant communication and do seminars at all times of the day and night.  But technology has also made it harder to find a good coach.  You need to talk to several coaches before you make a choice on hiring one.  Just because a coach charges a lot of money does not mean that coach is a good coach, it just means they charge a lot of money.  Find a coach you can connect with and feel comfortable with not one that is going to charge you a whole months paycheck to get the same results.

If you are looking for a Christian Life Coach you can see my coaching page.

Life Balance – 5 Ways to Create Space in Your Life!

We each get exactly 168 hours every week. No scientist or philosopher or great person of the past has ever gotten more. In today’s world we can get bombarded with interruptions from every side and before you realize it your day then week then year is gone and you can not even remember what you had yesterday for lunch. Learning to lead yourself, and balance information and how it comes at you will help you have better life balance.

1. Get away. You must take time for yourself. If you will take one hour per week to plan the next week you will save a day in trying to figure out what to do next. I don’t use a day planner to keep time down to the fifteen minute block. I do have a 3X5 card my to-do list for that day only written on it. Remember it this way: one week per year, one day per month, one hour per week and fifteen minutes per day. If you take these times to plan your life and set goals you will be more successful than 95% of Americans.

2. If possible put yourself on an information diet. I know this sounds harsh but try to only check your email twice to three times per day. (If you are still reading thanks) If you think about it your email reading and sometimes rereading takes up significant amounts of your time. On my website I tell people I only check my email in the morning and in the evening so the know that when they send me mail it will not get answered right away. In the last week I have even turned off the auto check feature so if I am at the computer I will not even see that mail has come in.

3. Move to online mail such as Gmail or Yahoo mail or the new windows live which uses Hotmail and send or set up your online mail to check your work and personal mailboxes. Once you have moved the convenience is that you can check mail from anywhere in the world. If you set up filters for your incoming emails you will know which ones to check and what can wait until later or never at all. (Your can do this with windows outlook also but online is much faster and we will all be there eventually) If you use Firefox as a web browser there is a Getting Things Done (GTD) add-on for Gmail (Now called Active Inbox) so you can label your mail as it comes in and then act later.

4. When you do check your email do it quickly and efficiently. If it is trash; trash it. If it needs a response respond immediately so you don’t stick yourself with trying to answer all of your email two days after you have received it and then you get bogged down for two hours trying to catch up. Steven Covey says in his book Focus that we should either a) file it; b) act on it; or c) DELETE IT, in my opinion most mail goes in this category.

5. Let the phone go to voice mail. If it is not someone you need to talk to right away then don’t. They will either leave you a voice mail and you can check it like you do your email or they will not and it must not have been that important.

Everything you do needs to be done with this thought in mind. If you are working on a project and you stop to talk to someone it takes you at least five minutes to ramp back up and start your thinking process again. If you are a boss this should apply to your employees also. If you want them to be productive then leave them alone and let them work.

Bonus: Get rid of Nextel or set strict limits on its use. it is the biggest time waster on the planet. Most alerts are for bogus things or just to chit-chat not work. Those of you that use Nextel know what I mean. You will alert someone to ask them what they had for lunch, but you would not call someone and waste time to ask that. Either ban it or teach people how to use it.

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Leadership – Developing A Code For Life

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Whether it is Hammurabi‘s code, or the Ten Commandments, there have been codes of law and codes to live by for as long as there has been a written language.  But what about you?  Do you have a set of rules that you aspire to live your life by every day?  In His Article Successful People Create Their Own Orange Code  Bud Bilanich uses the “Orange Code” from ING as a model for helping you create your own code to live by. 

Mr. Bilanich is a commonsense coach, and here is the kicker in his article, “Successful people develop a clarity of purpose and direction to help them create the career and life success they want and deserve.”   That is a powerful message.  If successful people know the purpose on their lives and the direction they are going, shouldn’t you know the same thing if you want to be successful.  How can you know when you succeed when you don’t know what success looks like.  Take a look at the whole article here.

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Why Not Become A Life Coach

Do you like to help people succeed?  Is there an area you have a niche in?  Are you able to listen to what people say and honestly reflect that back to them?  Do you want to own your own business?  Then becoming a life coach may be right for you.

When I began exploring coaching in 2006 I knew I had a calling deep within me.  I graduated from Liberty University with a degree in religion and thought I was going to be the pastor of a church.  However, counseling is not my thing.  As a pastor, counseling is one of the main things I would be doing during the day.   I found that  I was to honest, and most people do not want you to be honest with them.  I like to work with people who want to accomplish goals, people who have vision, and want to lead others.  I can not work with people who just want me to tell them I love them and it will get better.  Because I know it won’t get better unless they do something to make it better.

What Is Your Back Ground?

I mentioned above about having a niche.  Everyone is an expert at something.   My father was a Caterpillar Tractor Mechanic.  He was payed more money than anyone I ever met for working on a tractor.  Why? Because that was his niche.  He worked on nothing else, and he was the best.  What Are You Good At?  You can be a coach in any field.  You can get started with a blog like I did then expand into coaching.  I’ll help you set up a web address if you want one, just email me at steve (at) pinnaclebalance dot com and let me know you want to set up a blog and I’ll help you get started.

I Don’t Have A Degree.

So what!  Like I said above, “Everyone is an expert at something.”  Can you cook, scrapbook, plan parties, help the grieving, or stay married for 15 years?  Do you paint, craft, mechanic, sell anything, or just love people?  Do you know a lot about beer, wine, spirits, food, pastries, or anything else? Do you see what I am getting at. You know something about something so you can be a coach.

Do you like to be stretched and challenged?

Many or maybe all of the sites that advertise coach training tell you that you need to be trained to be a life coach.  There is no rule that says you have to get formal training to be a coach.  They want to sell you the training so they can make money.  Instead, I suggest getting several books and reading them to help get started.

First is, Becoming a Professional Life Coach, This gives you a great start to learning the coaching profession.  Next is, “Four Steps to Building a Profitable Coaching Practice” by Deborah Brown-Volkman.  This was the first book I ever bought.  It will get you started in the art of building and marketing your business and most importantly choosing who you coach. Third is The Coaching Starter Kit: Everything You Need to Launch and Expand Your Coaching Practicefrom Coachville.com.  While this book has a long name it has ideas, reports, documents, and even coaching contracts you can use to get started in your business.  Finally, if you need help asking question or ideas for developing documents  Total Life Coaching: 50+ Life Lessons, Skills, and Techniques to Enhance Your Practice…and Your Life again by Patrick Williams.  Yes it has another long name, but can be invaluable to help you get your practice started.

I hope this has given you a look at coaching and instilled the belief that you can become a coach. If you have question feel free to contact me from our about page.  Or if you are looking to start a coaching relationship fill out our coaching questionnaire for a free getting to know you session.

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3 Ways To Stop Procrastinating

When Henry Ward Beecher was asked how he could do so much more than other people, he replied: “I don’t do more, but less, than other people. They do all their work three times over: once in anticipation, once in actuality, once in rumination. I do mine in actuality alone, doing it once instead of three times.”

How many times have you created a list; or just didn’t put something on a list; or maybe sat outside a customers office because you were playing out in your mind what would happen when you did the thing your knew you were supposed to do? Chances are you have procrastinated before. Nike gave us the phrase, “Just Do It.” I think they took Mr. Beecher’s sentiment and condensed it. If you want a balanced life you’ve gotta stop projecting your thoughts on something before it happens and quit worrying about what you should have done after it is passed.

Three good ways to stop procrastinating are:

1. Change your thoughts. I know this sounds over simplified but it is true. The best way to change your life is to change your mind. Think about people in your life that affirm you. Think about what made you happy when you were a kid. Think about what makes you happy now; wife, husband, family, art, music, football, whatever.

2. Change your heart. What you let into your heart is what stays in your life. If you are constantly playing out what the next business deal is or where the next sell is coming from or how the bills are going to get paid stop because these things are going to become habits then you may get stuck in a rut you will need more than coaching to get out of. I’m not saying don’t plan and set goals. I am saying quit playing in your mind and just do it.

3. Change your future. Find someone to come along side you as a coach or mentor that can help you set goals and keep you accountable to those goals.

Plan daily what you are going to do and do your most important things. Don’t spend time wrestling with the; “should I do this” or “I wish I had done that.” Make quick but solid decisions and trust your gut. Always focus on the task at hand.

You Get What You Give In Life

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Each of us is created with certain gifts that we are to use in the time we are here on earth. What I would like for you to see is that no matter who you are, what you put into life is exactly what you get out.

Jesus tells us that a good tree bears good fruit, and a bad tree gives bad fruit. Beyond that your attitude will determine how many friends you have and your level of relationships with these people. Your attitude at work will depend on whether you are advanced at work or whether you work at all. Your attitude toward learning will determine whether you spend time learning or not.

We are very fortunate in America to live in a free society. We can chose to take advantage of the freedom we have and make a life that we were designed to live in the job we were designed to do. Or we can sit on the sidelines and complain about the lot we were cast and become miserable old curmudgeon who have no true friends and die mostly alone.

If you knew you would die on a certain day at a certain time would you choose to live a miserable unfulfilled life or one where you choose to use the talents you were given by God and live a joyful life doing what you were designed to do.

Here is some news, you are going to die someday so why not use the gifts God gave you and make something of what you are.

If you let life happen to you, you will probably lose. Sitting around and waiting to hit the lottery is not a long-term goal. You have to start paying attention to the calling that is in your heart, start setting goals, and start reading books to help you see beyond tomorrow.   When you realize you control your future and you start making better choices; then you will start to see changes in your life that you never thought would happen.

Here is the stuff you do not hear in goal-setting seminars. There will be times when you think you have failed. These time of doubt come into every persons life. Unless you quit, you have not failed. Mistakes and setbacks happen but they are not failures and you need to see them for what they are, setbacks. If you keep going you will see success.

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Change Your Mind, Change Your Life

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If you are not satisfied with your current physical, monetary, spiritual, or any other situation the good news is you can change all aspects of your life just by changing the way you think. At the first of every year we hear that we must set goals to accomplish various tasks with in the next year. As you already know, most people who start these programs will stop within the first month – or two at most.

Why?

From what I have seen as a personal coach the most common reason is, the person has not come to a full understanding of how to change what they want to change. Most people have clouded their thinking  with the thoughts of others so they are  trying to accomplish a goal put there by someone else. The good news is that this can be fixed in four easy steps.

1) Decide what you really want. That sounds simplistic but in reality this is the main reason for stopping before reaching the goal. Do you really honestly want to accomplish this goal? If you do why do you want to? Is this for your own good or for the benefit of someone else? Are you doing this to fit into society? Continue to work down to find what the real reason is and you will find what the real goal is.

2) Once you have decided what it is you really want write it down. Once you see it on paper it becomes more realistic to you and you can get your mind around it better. Now rewrite it in the first person present tense form such as: I have x, I pray x times daily, I weigh x pounds. Once you have it in the first person present tense your mind can begin to accept it. Read it at least 6 times per day. This will solidify the way you think. Once your mind accepts the goal as fact, it will begin to change and help you accomplish that goal.

Hint: Take a favorite proverb and do this with it.

3) Set a realistic time frame to accomplish the goal. If you are broke with no job finding a new job may take a month or two. If you are over weight and it took twenty years to get here don’t try to get rid of it in six months. A realistic time frame is crucial in the achieving the goals you set

4) Make better choices. Turn off the T.V. and read good books. Start reading books and magazines that lift you up not tear you down. Start cooking at home instead of dining out. Write a letter instead of using email. This step will be the most helpful part of the process.

You can change any aspect of your life if you want to. If you just learn to change your thought process, you can transform yourself a little each day.

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