Be A Friend To Your Spouse

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I know this blog isn’t about marriage, but part of our discipleship is about talking about issues of the day.  We have recently had a governor and a senator admit to cheating on their spouses.  One was hidden for years, and one was hidden for about fifteen minutes.  I think we are becoming immune to these kind of acts because we are seeing it more and more often, and not just in the news.

My wife is my best friend.  We joke that the priest who married us told us we shouldn’t get married because we are so different.  His test was so wrong it’s even funnier because we are really a lot alike.  We like the same foods, sports, and activities, and we try to do stuff that we have in common as much as possible.  Beyond that, I think having the same value system enables us to focus on what we believe God is calling us to do.

I think for guys, just being friends is harder than it is for the women.  We don’t know what to say or how to listen a lot of the time.  **CONFESSION** I caught myself doing this last night when I was watching a documentary on PBS.  I saw her lips moving, but there was nothing coming out. I Was Not Listening To My Wife.  Anyway.  Being friends requires us to set aside time to listen.  This is done preferably not in a setting with televisions or at least turned off televisions. Make an effort to be a friend to your spouse if you are newly married, or get to know your spouse again if it has been a while and maybe you forgot how good of friends you were.

Don’t let the green grass on the other side of the fence draw you away.  You married your spouse for a reason.  Dig down and find that reason again.

• Find what You Have in common
• Be Spiritual together
• Put some of your needs aside
• Talk