Stop The Self-Pity

If you are going to change your world, or just your self, the first thing you need to do is stop the self-pity.  We could all save ourselves hundreds of dollars over the course of our lives by just doing this one thing.  We wouldn’t need half the self-help book, videos, courses, or websites for that matter if we would all just stop our self-pity.

Think of it this way, you beat yourself up and everyone tells you you’re doing a good job.  This may help for a while but deep down, you’re just positive you’re a worthless human being and you just can’t shake the feeling.  No one has said you were worthless, no one has pointed you out as a stupid oaf, but you just can’t shake the feeling you just suck the life out of the world.

Let me be quite clear, there is a real problem with people who suffer from depression.  If you genuinely have depression you need to see a doctor or psychiatrist and get real help.  But the majority of people reading this need to suck it up and stop feeling sorry for themselves.

What this HABIT does is change your perception.  You can really talk yourself into destroying your job, family, and life by focusing on yourself and what you don’t have or can’t do.  And that’s all it is, is a habit.  When you decide you are going to focus on the positive in your life, job, and relationships, you will see a dramatic change in your output, and life.  Think about this, if you continuously tell yourself how wild your kids are, they are going to be wild.  If you alway say how bad your job is, you’re going to hate your job.

Paul said to think on theses things:

  • whatever is true,
  • pure,
  • right,
  • holy,
  • friendly,
  • and proper.
  • Don’t ever stop thinking about what is truly worthwhile and worthy of praise

None of these things are bad for us.  There is no self-pity in any of these things.  Think about the truth that God loves you very much.  Think about the purity and holiness of Jesus.  Think about how friendly the people you love are.  Think about how worthwhile you are to everyone you know.

You are special whether you believe it or not.

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About Steve Crenshaw

Disciple of Christ, blogger, speaker. Pretty good husband and father. Jacksonville Jaguars Season Ticket Holder and Arkansas Razorback Fan


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