Why You Should Say No To Opportunities

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I’ve written several times about how to say no, but I want to address why you should say no.  I know good opportunities are out there for entrepreneurs.  For that matter good opportunities are out there for every one.  The problem with good opportunities is, they aren’t great opportunities.  If you can learn to say no to good opportunities you will have more great opportunities than you know what to do with.

I know how the story goes; you don’t want to offend anyone, you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.  Look at it this way if you learn to say no first, you can always go back and say yes later.

  1. The first and best reason is that you’re too busy.  If you have a lot of different opportunities you’re trying to work right now one more opportunity is not going to make life easier.  When I was a kid we had a place where we would fish called the “Honey Hole.” the problem with the “Honey Hole” was it was too easy to catch fish.  After a long day of walking and carrying fish we still had a clean them when we got home.  Many times we would throw good fish away because we were so tired we couldn’t clean them.  If you’re too busy, you don’t need to take on more opportunities
  2.  The opportunity doesn’t fit you.  As a leader you’d need to know what you’re about.  If you can’t sell you don’t need to join a Network Marketing business.  I understand that we all want to make money quickly.  But you need to learn some skills before you quit your job, because you think you’re going to get rich by starting a business.  If an opportunity doesn’t fit you, you need to say no.
  3. You haven’t it checked it out.  This by far is my favorite reason not to do something.  If you haven’t researched it, you don’t need to do it.  I got into a business when I was 24 years old that I did not understand.  That year my family lived on $4000.  By the grace of God we made it through that year but I swore then and there that I would never do something I didn’t understand.

I don’t want to be the who is always saying no, but I want you to think about what you’re doing.  People who are happy don’t go around sticking their finger in every piece of pie they find.  They find the right opportunity that fits them and research it and they’d do it correctly.

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Learn To Lead Yourself Before You Lead Others

This phrase actually came from Tiger Woods. At his news conference before the 2010 Masters.  He actually said that his father told him he must, “Learn to help himself, before he helped others.”  But I decided I liked “lead” instead of “help” so thanks Tiger for the quote.

I have experienced many types of leaders through my life.  Many of them never really lead as much as they told those that worked for them what to do. They then went about taking credit for the good, and giving blame for the bad.  I worked with a man once that complained about Dr. John C. Maxwell’s writing on leadership, but never read any of it.  I would suggest he never learned to lead himself.

Discipline is hard, but discipline is a must for anyone who wants to be successful at whatever they do.  If you are always late, it is because you are not disciplined enough to be on time.  Not because your family is a late family and you always have been.   When I was in the Navy I learned this lesson first hand.  I was relieved from my watch every day by a man who was consistently late.  I reported the man several times and he was moved to other watch sections but his tardiness never ceased.  He was finally taken to Captains Mast and reduced in rank before being released from the Navy.  His inability to be on time cost him his job, and he never knew why.

Control your tongue. Swearing is one of the best signs of an  undisciplined mouth.  In the bible we are told that the tongue is like the rudder of a ship.  A rudder is small in comparison to the ship, but turns the thing.  Your tongue can lead you down roads you do not want to travel.  Swearing is not the only sign of an undisciplined tongue.  Arguing, sarcasm, complaining, and gossip are other signs.  No one wants to be around someone who complains all the time.  It’s just not fun.  Learn to control what you say and do by Forming Better Habits which can take some time, but pay huge dividends in the long run.

Discipline is more than being on time and controlling how you talk.  But being on time is a good start and controlling what you say is a good start.  Make a list of things you need to do and stick to the list this way you can be encouraged by you progress, and prodded when you slack.  Always remember, you can only accomplish something if you do it.   The minute you put it off, you will stop and lose your momentum.

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Goal Accomplishment – Take The Risk

Taking a risk when you are a teenager or twenty something is easy.  You have no cares and no real recourse if you fail.  Actually people expect that age group to take a lot more risks than people who have matured into their thirties or beyond.  After we “grow up” we are supposed to rely on our job, with our HMO and 401k for security. We are supposed to settle down and just fit into those decisions we made as teenagers or twenty somethings to become something we hate at thirty or forty.

Chances are if you scrubbed the 401k and HMO  and began learning to invest your money you could make more of a return and start living off what you invested. The problem is that the majority of people will complain about their job, their health care, and 401K, but never do anything to change it because the refuse to take a risk.

Helen Keller said, “Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”

Think about the 9.7% of the American population that relied on their “job” for security.  Right now if the unemployed had just a couple of other income streams or had learned to manage their own money better we would not see so many foreclosures and bankruptcies.

Do you know how to invest your own money, or take care of your 401k so it does not lose all its value. Take the risk and learn to manage your own money, I use Investools (I get no money for telling you that).  While they do try to get you to upgrade their service, their basic service is fine, and the introductory class is great to help you get started managing your own money.

What can you do better than anyone else.  What little thing can you do on the side that will help you start to make an alternative income. Take a risk and start your own side business or find that job that you have always wanted but keeping up your current lifestyle won’t allow.  If your house is to big for your job, take the risk and get out of the house. Downsize to something you can afford.

Don’t stop taking risks because it is what someone your age is supposed to do.  Take a calculated risk and plan your steps so the risk is manageable.

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Getting Out Of The Rat Race

I understand that you have to get your work done.  I understand that you need a job and in this economy anyone who has one is going to do what it takes to keep it.  But you have to ask, “Do I have this job because I like it or do I have it to keep up my appearance”?  The rat race starts when you begin keeping up appearances.  If you are showing up everyday at a job you hate and working on projects you hate because you need to keep your stuff then this treadmill is just going to run and run and run.

Let Go of Some Stuff

The more stuff you have, the harder you have to work to try to keep it.  give away some stuff and downsize.  One blog I read is Mind the Beginner.  Christiaan Wrote a post last year outlining a 100 item challenge and then revisited it earlier this year. The minimalist view is that you can live with only 100 things in your life.  If we each only had 100 things imagine how much easier our lives would be. You would have to decide between socks and a vase to go on the bookshelf, or even a book itself.  In the second post he finishes with a method of getting rid of 100 things.  I know this will fill up some landfills but look at what we waste now.  What are you racing to keep and why?  My story is one of moving and having to down size due to less space.  We moved into a two bedroom condo from a three bedroom townhouse.  We still have stuff in piles but it is getting closer to being gone.

Race to Really Win

What can your life really mean?  If you can’t quit your job, what can you do to make an impact where you are?  If you go to work everyday with a bad attitude then you are going to be miserable no matter what.  Can you find 3 things every day to be thankful for, then share them with others at your job?  If you are bringing work home then get a cd series or audio book you can listen to on your way home to help you wind down.  Remember, the more you look at your spouse when you are angry, the more you will get angry when you look at him or her.  Think snowball.  You can roll it either way.  You can unwind the snowball making it smaller and more manageable, or you can roll it around and make it as big as you want until you explode.  The choice is yours.

Don’t let the race run you down.  You can control how you think and how you respond to work and to stress, and to that boss that is always on you.  The way you think begins with what you focus on.  If you hold your hand up to your face you only see your hand.  If you hold your hand out at arm’s length you may see your hand, but will be able to see the world around you as well.  You may have to run the race, but you don’t have to participate in the stuff that goes along with it.

What can you do this week to let go of some stuff and to get out of the rat race?

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Don’t Lose Your Voice – Three Tips For Maintaining Your Edge

Do you get pushed to the side because you get caught up doing things not related to your purpose and goals? Don’t lose your voice by getting caught up learning or doing items not related to your calling and gifts.

When I say, “Your Voice” I mean your influence and creativity in your area of expertise. Yes it is nice to be well-rounded, but don’t think you must know everything or do everything. Here are some helpful tips to maintain your voice.

1. Focus on sharpening the skills you are good at. Don’t work on what you are weak at all the time. Improve what you are already good at to become great in that area. Once you are an expert then people will seek you out in that niche environment. Spend at least one; preferably two hour’s minimum reading, listening to tapes or just creating in your niche area. This will greatly improve your voice when people are looking for an expert in your field.

2. Find someone to do the day-to-day stuff. No, I am not saying to hire out all the other aspects of life if you are not fiscally sound. What I am saying is, if you have a friend that is an accountant or ad writer or graphic artist; or whatever your needs are maybe he or she can help you if you are not good in one certain area. You could also find very reliable people to work 1 hour per day for you in larger cities and especially online. This could add time to your efforts to become an expert.

3. Listen to your voice. If you are starting to lose sight of where you were or where you want to be then you are not focusing on what you do well. You know in your heart what it feels like when you are on the creative edge and you know what it feels like when you are dull. Stay sharp and focus on what you do best.

I know it sounds like I am telling you to neglect the business “Stuff” that we all must do. There are items only you can do, but if you are worrying about answering the phone and not developing your gifts don’t answer the phone.  They will either leave a message or call back. Do what you do best and find others to come around you who are the best at what they do and you will  see your gifts take off.

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Maintaining High Performance And Balance In Life

We all have full schedules, learning how to decide what is truly important can free us up to enjoy time together with loved ones. A close friend of mine is studying 6-Sigma, which means by default I am studying 6-Sigma. One of the items I have taken away is the “5 why’s.” The basic principle is to ask why five times to find the real reason you are performing a certain task. When we ask our selves why we really do something we can start to move into a direction of balance.

When something new comes across your desk ask why you must be the one to do it. If it can be delegated; delegate it. I know this sounds simple and you have heard this a thousand times but I bet like people I talk to every day you do things just because you; “Want them done right the first time,” or “Done your way,” or some other reason you must be the one to do the task. If you are a sole proprietor; skip to the next paragraph. If you run a business with employees then train one of them to be a substitute you. You need some one you can rely on to handle the task so you can cast the vision and lead the team. If you are running a business and you are the only one who knows how it runs-you will never be able to relax or take a vacation. If you have to be on 24/7 then you are not getting the rest your body needs and it will catch you sometime.

If you are like me and have no one to delegate to then you need a list of things to-do. I use no Day-Timer or calendar system I just lay out on a spiral notebook all the things I need to accomplish that week. Each night I list the thing to-do the next day in order from most important down. If something new comes in I put it on the list, and it may or may not get done that day depending on priority. I check and write email for thirty-minutes in the morning and evening. This gives me the freedom to do all email on my terms. I understand that phone calls come in from customers but do you really have to answer every phone call that comes in, can you get an answering service? I want you to look at all aspects of balancing your time. If you look you can find ways to free yourself up, I promise.

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Sacaramento California Won’t Help Businesses

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Thank you city of Sacramento for making this right!

A Sacramento shoe shine man, A. Gee Executive Shoe Shine, has had to move his business inside because the city only allows food and flower vendors permits to run businesses outside.  Maybe Sacramento has not heard that the economy is down and people need to work.  Maybe they don’t know that small businesses are the heart of their economy.  You be the judge. Watch the news story here.

http://news.yahoo.com/video/sacramentocbs13-15751210/local-shoe-shiner-runs-into-permit-trouble-18480972

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http://www.cityofsacramento.org/council/index.html

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How To Define Your Values

 

Listening can help you figure out what your values are. How can you make good decisions if you do not know why you are making them? If you have goals that are thought through and you know these goals are truly God-given, how do you know that to be true if you do not write out your God-given values so you can see them? Here is a good way to let God define your values.

1. What are you reading? Look at the keywords in the books you read or the tapes you listen to. While you are reading or listening take notes, get a feel for the material. This will help you pick out the value words.

2. What are the subjects that drive you to succeed? What gets your motor running? At one point in my life this value was food. I put food right up with family on my value system and at 270 pounds it showed. Write these items down also.

3. After you have gotten a broad spectrum of what you think your values are write every one of them on a single sheet of paper. Find 12 values that you feel are your top ones and write them on a separate sheet. Fold that piece of paper up and leave it alone for at least one day.

4. When you come back to the 12 values sheet you need to read it, understand it, make a change if you need to. Once these values are in your mind take the three top values and put them on a separate sheet of paper. These will be your guiding values. This may sound easy but it is not, if you really want to know what your values really are.

After you have completed this exercise try matching values to goals. If there are goals you have not been reaching maybe they do not line up with what you really believe. Maybe you will see a trend and be able to set new goals that do line up with your values. Either way knowing what you truly value will help you in your life’s walk.

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