Learn From People Who Are Where You Want To Be

So many people want to be leaders, if for nothing more than the status that comes with it.  People want to win, but not pay the price of learning to lead.  In 1998 I attended a John Maxwell conference in Jacksonville Florida, and I can say that was the pivotal point in my life. From that point on I started taking notes from any and every leader I could find.  I got Dr Maxwell’s InJoy Life Club that later became Maximum Impact  I still have those cd’s that I listen to when I drive.   I bought cd’s from JimRohn, Brian Tracy, Zig Ziglar, yes even Tony Robbins. I read book after book, because I knew what God was calling me to do.  I bought them because I knew I was called to lead, and the only way I was going to learn how was to find people who had been there and learn from them.

When you find people doing what you want to do get as close to them as you can. For me it was tapes and cd’s, but today you can get blog posts, and podcasts from just about every type of business in the world.  Don’t just try and imitate these people.  If you try to “Fake it, till you make it” you’ll end up just going in circles at best, broke and discouraged at worst.  What you want to do is learn from them and pay the price of personal growth.  You may not see the change today or tomorrow, but one year from now you will see a difference, five years from now you will look back at the person you are now and not know that person.  But it starts with finding people to learn from and applying the principles to your life.

Give back what you learn.  One of my goals is to personally mentor two people every year and challenge them to pass that on to someone else.  If you are a leader I believe you should pass on what you know. If you are an aspiring leader find someone to come along side you and learn together.

Do The Work And Opportunities Will Come

Opportunities are always presenting themselves.  When I was in the Navy, I was the first person any of my superiors knew who had ever gotten qualified to stand Engineering Officer of the Watch (EOW) in less than two years of getting out of school.  I was the youngest and lowest ranking member of the Engineering Casualty Control Training Team (ECCTT).  And I was on my way to dive school, until I decided I really didn’t want to be in the Navy.  These opportunities didn’t come because I complained and asked for more money, but because I worked and learned the entire engineering department on my ship in less than two years. Here are six things I learned from that experience.

Be willing to learn.  Many people want to be successful but they just want the success not the work involved.  I love reading and listening to Dr John Maxwell.  I am as much a product of his leadership as any young leader today.  But, I think too many of us want to be giant church leaders because that is the story he spread.  I also believe he will be the first one to warn that you have to be willing to put in the work and learn before you can be a leader.

Be satisfied with where you are, but continue to dream. Don’t mis-read that.  What I am saying is grow where you are.  If you are a genuinely good leader then you should want to help those around you. If you are constantly jumping from church to church it is not a sign of leadership, that is a sign of immaturity.

Read good books.  I read constantly while I was gaining knowledge of the ship. I read schematics, diagrams, and service manuals.  I learned all that I could through the books that were available to me.  If you are going to be a leader, you have got to read the books that will build you up. Your Next Read is a good source to help you find what you need to read next.   Don’t just read books from today, read books that were popular 10, 20, or even 100 years ago.  We don’t have the best books ever written today so look to the past.

Teach others.  Every time I learned one watch station I tried to teach everyone working with me what I knew.  Doing this taught me two things. First, not everyone wants to learn.  I know that’s hard to believe but it is true.  Many people want the success they see you have but they really just want the appearance not the knowledge.   Second, people will get credit for what you do.  Teach others anyway.  What you do makes you a leader, not the praise that comes with it. Never, harbor ill will towards anyone who gets credit for what you do.

Practice Your Craft. I sat in front of consoles and crawled in bilges for hours learning the correct sequence for shutting down the engines, fuel and oil pumps, and every other system in the engine rooms.  Practice makes perfect is not just a good saying, it is a fact.   Practicing being a leader will not make you a leader, but it will make you a better human.

Learn Form those who went before you.  Find someone who is doing what you want to do and latch yourself to them. I followed two men around for those two years and watched everything they did. I sat at the console while they were on watch, I picked their brains for information, and I even began carrying myself and talking like they did.  While I didn’t become them, I put every ounce of effort I could into learning what they knew.

The one thing I learned since then is Learn to listen to Jesus.  I wasn’t a Christian when I was in the Navy, so Jesus never played a role in what I did.  We are bombarded with opportunities daily as leaders so we need to be in tune with Christ and what he is doing on our lives and world so we can discern what he wants us to do.

What can you do today to grow as a leader?  Are you being mature about what is happening around you or to you? Can you see opportunities if they present themselves?

Why I Use Evernote

How Do You File Your Notes?

As a blogger on several different sites I need to be able to accumulate information to read at a later time. Every note I took used to go into a filing cabinet, then two filing cabinets, then two filing cabinets and filing boxes. You get the point. Now I have one filing drawer, for needed home documents, and every note is filed on Evernote. I learned several years ago from John C. Maxwell that filing things away will help you be creative in the future. Having a quote from an author, blogger, or speaker can spark a paragraph, a post, or even a series of posts.

So here is what I use it for:

Filing Notes – I have the Evernote plugin for the Chrome browser so all I have to do is highlight what I want to save and hit the plugin to clip it. It is really that simple.

Helps Stay Organized – Like I said, I have gotten rid of two filing cabinets and a couple of boxes so that has freed up room in our house. I don’t keep anything paper around anymore. Magazines get noted and thrown away instead of torn and filed. My email is smaller. Instead of keeping emails I had annotated I clip them and delete them.

Brainstorming Blog Posts – I have a folder for brainstorming I can open up from anywhere. Whether it is a dedicated time for brainstorming or if I am out I can take an audio note from my iPod and sync it to the Evernote Web when I get home.

Keeping My Wifes Recipes – I got this idea from Karen at Saving The Family Money. She takes pictures of recipe cards with her iPhone and saves them to Evernote. Again saving space and being able to tag each one by ingredient you can search and pick easily.

So you can see these are just four of many different way you can use Evernote to help you get organized, save time, and unclutter.

Learn To Lead Yourself Before You Lead Others

This phrase actually came from Tiger Woods. At his news conference before the 2010 Masters.  He actually said that his father told him he must, “Learn to help himself, before he helped others.”  But I decided I liked “lead” instead of “help” so thanks Tiger for the quote.

I have experienced many types of leaders through my life.  Many of them never really lead as much as they told those that worked for them what to do. They then went about taking credit for the good, and giving blame for the bad.  I worked with a man once that complained about Dr. John C. Maxwell’s writing on leadership, but never read any of it.  I would suggest he never learned to lead himself.

Discipline is hard, but discipline is a must for anyone who wants to be successful at whatever they do.  If you are always late, it is because you are not disciplined enough to be on time.  Not because your family is a late family and you always have been.   When I was in the Navy I learned this lesson first hand.  I was relieved from my watch every day by a man who was consistently late.  I reported the man several times and he was moved to other watch sections but his tardiness never ceased.  He was finally taken to Captains Mast and reduced in rank before being released from the Navy.  His inability to be on time cost him his job, and he never knew why.

Control your tongue. Swearing is one of the best signs of an  undisciplined mouth.  In the bible we are told that the tongue is like the rudder of a ship.  A rudder is small in comparison to the ship, but turns the thing.  Your tongue can lead you down roads you do not want to travel.  Swearing is not the only sign of an undisciplined tongue.  Arguing, sarcasm, complaining, and gossip are other signs.  No one wants to be around someone who complains all the time.  It’s just not fun.  Learn to control what you say and do by Forming Better Habits which can take some time, but pay huge dividends in the long run.

Discipline is more than being on time and controlling how you talk.  But being on time is a good start and controlling what you say is a good start.  Make a list of things you need to do and stick to the list this way you can be encouraged by you progress, and prodded when you slack.  Always remember, you can only accomplish something if you do it.   The minute you put it off, you will stop and lose your momentum.

From Mary Jo Asmus  Stuck? Admit It and Ask For Help

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Greatness Is Grown, Not Given

The story goes like this,” a tourist walking through a small town in Europe asks an older man, ‘Were there any great leaders born here?’ The man replies, ‘No, only babies.’”   Many people dream of being great, whether they think of greatness as being a world leader or a mom who takes care of her children,  people dream of greatness.  The problem is, many people “DREAM” of being great but never act on the dream.  Most of these people want greatness handed to them with no strings attached.  They have a skewed view of greatness.

What is the right view of greatness?

You must first realize that greatness is grown and not given.  You can not wake up “great” one morning unless you have put in a lot of time learning to be great before that morning.  I heard John Maxwell say, “What you are in ten years will be determined by what you are reading today.”  If you do nothing you will get exactly that.  Work is part of greatness.  If you want to be a great leader then you have to work toward that.  If you want to be a great parent, you have to work toward that.  If you want to be a great person, you have to work toward that.

Don’t confuse Greatness with Fame.

Many people in today’s American culture believe greatness is being on television or being famous.  The problem with that thinking is, being on T.V. does not make you great, and from what I have seen it usually makes you a jerk. From the local news guy or woman to the Hollywood star or starlet most people who are “famous” to us are great bu any means.  Don’t confuse politics with greatness either.  Think about it, how big of an ego do you need to believe you are better than anyone else in an entire state or nation for one job.  These guys fall all the time because their ego has to be continually fed.   Don’t get me wrong, we used to have great leaders and great news people and I am sure we still do.  The majority makes the great ones look bad and they all get lumped together.

Spend Time Working On Yourself

Make a habit of getting up daily and going to work on yourself.  Spend as much time as you possibly can every day reading books and listening to Cd’s or mp3′s from speakers that build up your life.  Change the way you think about life and the world.  If you hate everything or if you complain stop doing it.  Make a conscious effort stop the bad habit.  If you are a religious person spend time reading your holy books and learning from them.  I am a Christian and I spend time daily not just reading the bible and praying, but trying to practice what I have learned.

Work with a coach if you need a good swift kick in the rear a coach is great for the job. I offer coaching but if you need someone to run through a thought process you are having, feel free to contact me.

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Personal Development-Why It’s Important

Why can we not just show up? We hear all the time about the kid that makes a million dollars just because he or she just did one small thing. So why can’t we just show up and be successful. I know a couple that was in the right place at the right time and are now millionaires. The problem is the right place was managing McDonald’s. Are you willing to start at the bottom cooking fries and flipping burgers to make a million dollars? Probably not; so you waste tens of thousands of dollars trying to find the next get rich scheme on the internet or in mail order or where ever it may come from.

Personal Development is the key to changing your life. 
 John Maxwell once said, “What your are reading today, is who you will be ten years from now.” Do you understand the implications of watching the news or just television in general everyday for hours on end. It consumes you it becomes who you are. you begin to see that life is bad. everyone is out to get everyone else. Our government is out to get us. You lose your will to be the success you were called to be. You take on the personification of someone you are not.

If you want to succeed tomorrow then start by bettering your life. Go Buy a book or get some coaching. If you think coaching is to expensive then try email coaching or hit me up on Facebook. I do email coaching all the time because it is more affordable for some people. Some books you can read are Zig Ziglars Better Than Good: Creating a Life You Can’t Wait to Live and John Maxwell’s Today Matters: 12 Daily Practices to Guarantee Tomorrow’s Success. Both of these books will start you on the road to personal development. But don’t stop with two. Read every book you can find on personal development and if you need someone to keep you accountable get a coach.  I am not saying read self-help books that tell you that you need a better view of yourself.  Read books that give you an outline of how to succeed.  You are not going to agree with or enjoy every book you read but if you get one nugget out of each book you will see yourself begin to change.  Over time ever thing you read and do adds up to help you rise above the rest. 

I have a coach to help me get better and my coach has a coach. Tiger, Oprah, and countless others have coaches.  Successful people have others around them that can speak encouragement to them and help them develop themselves.  If you have friends that are of the same mindset then begin to meet with them and start to sharpen each other.  If your friends are people who make fun of you and try to pull you down to their level then they are not the ones to speak encouragement into your life.  Get someone in your life you can count on to help in your development. 

If you want to be truly successful then you must develop yourself. I want to also suggest the bible as daily reading. If you are of a different faith then by all means read your holy books. But as a Christian I read the bible and suggest it to those I coach. Don’t let the rest of your life slip away. Make the choice today to become the person you were called to be.

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